Source: OK Cupid – still by far one of the best websites…. get on it ladies…and single gents, maybe you could be number 22???
Location: http://b-soho.co.uk/ – a great little bar in soho it has a nice vibe and is pretty busy but not so much that you can’t hear each other. Ladies and gents, a great little tip for finding bars for dates or just for meeting old friends is this website – http://www.designmynight.com/london if you haven’t already heard of it it, it is great allows you to search area and what kind of night you are after and price… every serial daters dream! Check it out!
Right as you all know I had epically failed on the last date with this guy, I felt bad that he didn’t get the best of me, most dates do! I didn’t know if it was him, me or that I was getting bored of dating but I felt like he needed another date, if only to prove to myself that I hadn’t lost my dating mojo! We had had a bit of texting, but he wasn’t really into any kind of banter over text and unfortunately banter boy has got me onto the vibe so I was kind of missing that, however I was still keen to meet him. After the first date we had a peck on the cheek and I wasn’t overly eager to get any closer but as I have said I wasn’t in the right mood on our first date so the second date was all to play for, not that he knew that!
I arrived and he had a drink, now I still find this odd, why not guess at what I wanted, text me to ask, but do not just stand there with a pint and wait for me to say ‘Ok I will get a drink!’ In all fairness to him he did give me some money for the drink, but it still feels odd, I am all up for buying the drinks but don’t stand there with one! It just feels odd and quiet frankly a bit rude! We sat at the bar and started to chat, he is a really lovely guy and we talked all about my family and his and his home and we both elaborated on things that we talked about on the first date. It is refreshing to meet someone who is actually interested in things about me, however he just doesn’t have that OOMPH that I look for in a guy. We talked about nights out and everyone that knows me knows that I love to dance and have a good time, when I was telling him this he said, oh I never dance not unless I have had a fair few. That isn’t something I can understand, I will dance with my hands in the air on a stage in a club alone simply on a soda and lime, I don’t want someone who is hiding in the corner. Now it may seem that I am picking at small things, but I suppose to me it is the small things that matter, I mean we have stuff in common I do with most guys, but he just doesn’t excite me. Yes he makes me smile, but in the way that an old lady at a bus stop talking to me makes me smile, not in a way that makes my fanny gallop… (sorry siblings I used it again, but it is true, a keeper is one that makes your fanny gallop, or at least trot on the first and second date and unfortunately he doesn’t !)
So we had a few drinks in Bsoho and I suggested going for dinner. My all time favourite place on soho to eat is Bodeans, http://www.bodeansbbq.com/ – this place is HEAVEN. Pulled pork and BBQ pork at its best, so much so that we had to wait 45 mins for a table, was worth it in the end. No really an ideal date location, especially for a girl to suggest BUT its so good and if a guy wants to be with me he needs to learn and quick, I like my food. We had a drink whilst waiting and he carried on a conversation about how many dates I had been on… Now hold your hats kids, but I told him in a round about sort of way about the blog. I have recently been having the guilts about writing about potential lovers that I am starting to like and how they might react if they found out, I mean how would you feel? Girls I know we would all want to know what was said about us, but to my male readers, please tell me how would you feel if you had been on 3-4 dates with a girl talked a lot and she told you 6 months down the line when all was said and done that she had documented the whole situation on her blog? I need to know boys so get commenting. So I told him I had made a challenge to date 100 men in a year to try and find the one, he seemed a bit shocked and upset about this, his reaction was odd, he said things like, ‘ I have a lot of exs to fight off then!’ He just didn’t like the idea that I had and was dating a lot. We had on our first date talked about internet dating and how he didn’t show any photo’s of himself, I find that odd, I am an open book, I don’t hid anything, oh well maybe the blog but that is all. He said it was because he didn’t want to see someone he knows online, or more importantly for them to see him. I asked him if he met someone online would he tell his friends and family how they met and he said no. To me that is odd, I am not ashamed of being single nor am I ashamed of internet dating so I am not comfortable with the fact that he was so against it.
I think that kind of sealed the deal for me, it was early and I was keen to get home, we had another drink for the road and headed towards the tube, we got on the tube together and he made some comments about things not getting naughty, it filled me with fear about having to snog him, I gave him a peck on the lips and he jumped off the tube. Back in the day I am sure I would have snogged his face off in front of a lot of commuters…maybe I have grown up or become more aware that I just don’t fancy all men, either way this guy didn’t get what he was after.
This guy is lovely, and sweet and I think he would suit a shy girl who doesn’t dance with her hands in the air and is ok with someone who doesn’t make a huge effort clothing wise for their dates….. I think if I carried on dating this guy I would end up being too much for him. I do believe it would is easy to get a boyfriend, if you are willing to compromise on what you want and I am not, I will know when I meet him, I will just know, and so will you all I suppose!
Rating: 6/10 for being nice and chatty but he didn’t make me flutter, gallop or as my sister wants me to put it, he just didn’t make my heart skip a beat..
PS. The biscuit question, firstly the classic I am a Tim Tam because I am hard on the outside and soft on the inside… come one boy be original… he then settled with shortbread with little chocolately surprises just like my personality… YAWN.. Come on that one has been used before!
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